Confession #2: “Sometimes I Fake It… and I Kinda Like the Performance”
The GetBangBangTea.com Team on Aug 13th 2025
There’s a moment right after a dramatic sigh, an arch of the back, and the perfect “ohhh” where it all feels like… acting. And sometimes, it is.
Faking it in bed gets a bad rep. And sure, if it’s the only way you’re “finishing” every time, it might be time to dig a little deeper. But for many people, it’s not always about deception... it’s about the dance. The moment. The illusion of pleasure as a performance.
And sometimes, that performance feels… kinda powerful.
Why Do We Fake It (Even When We Don't Need To)?
Not every moan is a lie. But some are absolutely exaggerated and that’s not necessarily a crime. Here’s why it happens:
> You want your partner to feel good about themselves.
> You’re mentally checked out but want to wrap things up.
> You’re tired, bored, or overstimulated but still want to offer something.
> You’re turned on by their pleasure, even if you're not close to your own.
> You love the idea of being someone who moans like a porn star (even if you’re faking it to get there).
Sometimes it’s about getting through it. Sometimes it’s about staying connected. Sometimes it’s theater and you’re the star of the show.
The Downside of Always Playing a Role
Here's the catch: if you fake it too well, too often, you train your partner to repeat something that doesn’t actually work for you.
That fake moan? It becomes a gold star in their brain. So if you’re always acting and never giving notes, you’re co-writing a script where your pleasure never takes the lead.
Can Performance Be Part of Your Real Sex Life?
Absolutely. Sexual performance doesn’t have to mean fake. It can be fantasy. Flirtation. Seduction. Taking control of the room with your voice, your face, your timing... even when you are enjoying it.
But if you find yourself faking more than feeling, it might be time to ask:
“Do I even know what I like anymore?”
“Do I give myself time to feel it, or am I always performing?”
The Takeaway
Faking it doesn’t make you flawed. You’re human. You’re also allowed to want more than just an award-winning performance. You deserve the real thing too... and that starts with getting curious about what turns you on when no one’s watching.
Written by the GetBangBangTea.com Team... real people with real libido struggles who found a tea that actually worked, felt the difference, and turned our experience into a mission to help others reignite their spark.